I am grieving the version of me who used to get seven things done before noon. She is not coming back. And a lot of you are grieving too, Magnet. The friend who stopped inviting you. The events you skipped. The body that changed. The world does not send cards for these losses. Inside: the research on why this grief goes unnamed, four grace practices, and the reframe that lets us hold both. Joy lives here. Grief lives here too.